A touching movie

The highlight of my day was watching the De-Lovely movie starring Kelvin Kline and Ashley Judd. Isn't that just lovely.

De-lovely was great... but I found the love relationship between the two main characters a wee bit too intense for me. So I heard that it was based on the true story of the American composer Cole Porter and his wife Linda Lee Porter? I find it hard to believe such a romance existed. How could Cole Porter unleash his undeniable bisexual preferences in such a disturbing manner? I squirmed in my seat each time they showed him having physical contact with yet another new guy. The first half of the film depicted his wife's unwavering devotion and trust in him, giving him the freedom to choose his actions, but I was already constantly anticipating the moment that she reaches her limit and leaves him. For I believe that it's impossible to give, and not expect anything in return... that no matter how sweet the beginning is, things will eventually turn sour. Is that being too cynical?

Anyway I really could not make up my mind on whether I think his wife was just being plain silly, or truly admirable. Perhaps she's the embodiment of the saying" behind every succesful man is a (what?) woman"... she helps him in his career, and cleverly knows when to release her reins on her man to keep him coming back to her ( despite all those flings.... urrrrgh) oops.. did I just make Cole Porter sound like his wife's horse? His wife's 'blind' devotion to him is truly what made the film a romantic one. What elements must a romantic film have? To me, there needs to be unbelievable devotion, sacrifices and possibly death at the end, separation, heartache, tears... it's no wonder that after watching years of movies like these, people start to believe that sadness and loneliness are all part and parcel of romance...that without the negative elements, something's... just not quite right. The more we strive to reach for the same type of relationship as depicted in movies, the greater the chance of setting ourselves up for despair and heartache due to unrealistic expectations. No?

Romantic films like this can bring about two kinds of emotions. One, it leaves u feeling hopeful that love is out there within your grasp and that it just simply isn't your time yet. Two, it results in loneliness from not experiencing the kind of relationship as depicted in the story. What happens if you encounter both emotions at the same time and you end up battling and wondering what it is that you truly feel? I think, that's when you end up with a very twisted-minded girl who doesn't know what she wants.