Middle of a dispute
When one finds oneself caught in the middle of a dispute, is it wrong to take no sides and sit on the fence?
I always have taken that approach, when I don't see any side being terribly wrong. It's a good thing that I'm not a judge or a lawyer cuz I simply can't make clear cut judgements. I like to see things from an outsider's point of view because the situation is usually more obvious, and I would like myself NOT to be judgmental.
An old friend of mine once said that I was just being a coward in not taking a stand. But I choose to defend myself. What is so bad about disliking confrontations and choose to accomodate everyone? Isn't that what makes a person more easy to get along with in the real world, what they would term as having a "high EQ" ? Obviously, my way of doing things would irk people who live their lives exactly the opposite, where there is a clear difference between right and wrong. I don't want to be rigid. Why get so fixed on the accuracy of being right or wrong? When in disagreement, does it make one much happier knowing that the opponent has been finally proven wrong, and beaten?
I like the use of the water analogy in this case. Water goes with the flow, flows around obstacles in its way and continues as before, what's more, water takes the shape of any container it is put into. Won't life be great if we can all go forward in life with little resistance to obstacles and accomodate each new experience that arrives?
I always have taken that approach, when I don't see any side being terribly wrong. It's a good thing that I'm not a judge or a lawyer cuz I simply can't make clear cut judgements. I like to see things from an outsider's point of view because the situation is usually more obvious, and I would like myself NOT to be judgmental.
An old friend of mine once said that I was just being a coward in not taking a stand. But I choose to defend myself. What is so bad about disliking confrontations and choose to accomodate everyone? Isn't that what makes a person more easy to get along with in the real world, what they would term as having a "high EQ" ? Obviously, my way of doing things would irk people who live their lives exactly the opposite, where there is a clear difference between right and wrong. I don't want to be rigid. Why get so fixed on the accuracy of being right or wrong? When in disagreement, does it make one much happier knowing that the opponent has been finally proven wrong, and beaten?
I like the use of the water analogy in this case. Water goes with the flow, flows around obstacles in its way and continues as before, what's more, water takes the shape of any container it is put into. Won't life be great if we can all go forward in life with little resistance to obstacles and accomodate each new experience that arrives?
posted by Min @ 1:19 PM
1 Comments:
At 4:33 PM,
NoKoSo said…
What is so bad about disliking confrontations and choose to accomodate everyone? Its not at all bad! Just don't be a pushover can already. There are certain things like morals or big crimes where hopefully we will take a stand.
If not, then forget it man. Read somewhere "Is it more important to be right or to be happy?" I mean do a person always have to be right? Have to win an argument? Have to make his or her point? Why not just let another person have his say? Life... take it easy... =P
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